Fwd: Corona - Italy

From someone residing in Italy:

"Coronavirus in the region of Lombardia-Itália.
There are situations in life that are not expected, and the worst, in front of them, we are helpless.
I live in Como, in the area where the Coronavirus arrived without anyone waiting…
I correct, without anyone believing it, then wait, with so many Chinese people passing through northern Italy, we already expected it!
Closed schools, closed gyms, closed bars after 18:00, and so many, leaving the house only for what is strictly necessary.

It is a strange situation that leads us to revalue some things. At this time, having a nice car, an expensive pocketbook, wonderful clothes, they serve what? We would have no way to use or whom to show.

THE ONLY thing that happens to matter and that is asked of GOD is HEALTH. For yourself and for your loved ones.
In truth, how we spend time running back or asking GOD for things that don't help us at all, so many times !!!
As we are futile in most of the time! As we do not value or that is really so valuable!

We are at home. We invented games; Lunches and dinners become long and full of discussions between us, we laugh and cry together about problems and take care of each other.

No one has anywhere to go, or things to do. The lack of time FINISHED!

Locked up at home and "prisoners" because of Mr. CORONA VIRUS. That does us a great favor, despite everything. It frees us from ARROGANCE, because we see that we are nothing and we have no control of anything.

It frees us from ENVY, because we understand that it is useless. It shows us our vulnerability and then it shows us the way back to GOD.

In short, it helps us to perceive our individual "Prison" from day to day, due to the lack of time and having to contain our feelings.

And set us free. It leaves us FREE to be afraid, to feel helpless, not to run after anything ...
In the end, the only job we have or the only lesson at home is to try not to get sick ...

Also, and perhaps most importantly, it allows us to REWARD ourselves with our loved ones. Those with whom we live in the same house, we love, but many times we don't even talk to each other as we should: OUR FAMILY.

And finally, it makes us turn to GOD. In the end, in the face of our vulnerability, it is HE and only HE who can protect us ...

Taking a balance sheet, Mr. Corona virus can even kill us, but at the end of the day, he CERTAINLY teaches us to LIVE!!!"

ShabbatUK at Leytonstone and Wanstead Synagogue

Report: ShabbatUK at Leytonstone and Wanstead Synagogue 1st - 2nd March 2019

Summary: First Ladies’ Challah Make in Leytonstone Shul – led by the Shul’s Rabbi’s wife – Rebbetzen Chaia Brackman. 

Leytonstone families honoured to host the Travelling Chassidim over Shabbat overnight in their own homes, including two hosted overnight in sleeping bags in the Shul itself.

Extraordinary Shabbat led by the Travelling Chassidim including communal Friday night meal, Shabbat morning service, communal lunch followed by mincha, Seuda Shlishit followed by Kumzitz, and Musical Havdalah.

First time that Leytonstone and Wanstead Synagogue is participating in ShabbatUK.

First Federation Shul to host the Travelling Chassidim

Ladies’ Challah Make – 28th February 2019

Led by Rebbetzen Chaia Brackman

The ladies made dough together using the ShabbatUK recipe, while Rebbetzen Brackman taught the meanings behind the ingredients that go into challah, as well as how to make the dough, knead and leave it to rise. This was followed by discussions about the meaning of taking Challah and the brachah and why it is a good time to make a prayer. After the dough had risen, Rebbetzen Brackman showed the ladies how to take Challah, how much to take, and how to burn it. Then the dough was taken home where attendees then each baked their own Challahs. Collectively the group also made challahs for the Shul including two enormous Challahs for the communal Friday night dinner the following day and smaller vegan Challahs following Lucy Barnes’ Vegan Challah recipe.

Chassidic Families hosted in Leytonstone:

Families in Leytonstone hosted members of the Travelling Chassidim including Cheski Monheit and Yossi Austerlitz and their families, Binyomin Binet, Rabbi Ahron Weingarten and Chazan Hereshi Friedman. Straight after Shabbat they were joined by further family members and Ari Kalish and his accordion.

Friday night: Chazan Friedman and his Travelling Chassidim comrades led a harmonious Kabbalat Shabbat with energetic dancing and followed by maariv. Chairman Phil Schryber namechecked all the Chassidic guests in his welcome at the end of the service, and invited all present to stay for a communal Friday night dinner. There were further songs as Kiddush wine was poured and hamotzi was said over enormous Challahs made in the Shul from the Ladies’ Challah Make the night before. Yakov Korer from Lubavitch led heated debate and discussions over a hot “Chinese-style” chicken meal (with veggie option). Further harmonious songs were shared over the meal, ranging from Shabbos favourites, Yiddish classics, to riffs on the lyrics “ShabbatUK”, “Shabbat in Leytonstone”, and “Leyton is the best”. Even the very late arrival of member Sammy Ebrahimoff was greeted with applause and songs spontaneously adapted with Sammy’s name inserted into harmoniously performed lyrics.

Shabbat morning: Rabbi Weingarten and Chazan Friedman led the davening, our very own Etan Blass leined and did the haftarah, and Cheski Monheit led Musaf. The service was punctuated by harmonious singing from our Chassidic guests and plenty more dancing. Kiddush and a lunch with more Challahs baked in the Shul followed, with hot Chulent and Kugel. Following lunch the Chassidim joined Leytonstone members for mincha, after which a convoy of members of the community and Travelling Chassidim and their families took a chilly stroll around Leytonstone. They visited the green and sunny Leyton Flats and showed the guests Leytonstone’s plentiful wildlife at Hollow Ponds, returning to the Shul for Kumzitz and Havdalah.

Musical Havdalah: Following a cosy Seudah Shlishit in the Shul, Rabbi Weingarten led a meditative Kumzitz drawing Shabbos to a close. As further members of the Leytonstone community arrived, the Travelling Chassidim prepared for Havdalah, the lights were dimmed, and lit candles were passed around for everyone present to hold while the Havdalah candle was lit. Rabbi Weingarten explained how the single candles represented how we are all individuals lighting our own candles at the start of Shabbat; whereas at the end of Shabbat we are all as one. He compared this to the way we are all members of a diverse Jewish community, whether from the Chassidic community or the local community, but also we are all as one like the woven strands of the Havdalah candle.

Meanwhile, Ari Kalish arrived with his accordion just in time to accompany a series of atmospheric traditional songs, as the Travelling Chassidim sang together in harmony with Chazan Friedman. Rabbi Weingarten led an evocative sensory Havdalah ceremony and the Shul’s treasured spice box was passed around. Further Travelling Chassidim family members arrived during the evening, having made the journey over from Stamford Hill as soon as Shabbos went out. This was followed by further dancing and singing with Ari Kalish alternating between keyboard and accordion, Chazan Friedman and Rabbi Weingarten leading the songs.

By the end of the evening Chassidim and Leytonstone members were swapping phone numbers, looking ahead to Purim and to forging long term connections between our communities.

Report by Ruth Solomons (secretary and treasurer of Leytonstone and Wanstead Synagogue)

Photos: Challah make photos courtesy of Wendy Smith

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1bwpsQmOo1taN5pWguCjUzwAH-03C1h5r?usp=sharing

Musical Havdalah and Motzei Shabbos photos courtesy of: Bernard Stern

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/130X5q9OEGANSgIxeq0f9ZUEfc06l-kxf?usp=sharing

Contacts: Contact at Leytonstone Shul: Phil Schryber (Chairman of Leytonstone Synagogue) 07961124391

Contact for Travelling Chassidim: Rabbi Menasche Scharf 07974160252 - www.travellingchassidim.org.uk

Thank you HaShem!

There were about 15 residents living out in Midrand at the facility. The organisation has a head-office in Sandringham in JHB. I was often asked to bring things or people up and down between the offices & the factory. One morning on my way to the factory, I was asked to give a lift to one resident. This is a person who can’t talk properly, and she limps around. She is not able to use a knife and fork for eating, but can only use a spoon or a straw. An extra-mural that she does (and is very good at) is paint. But, because she can’t hold a paint brush with her fingers, she hears a helmet / hat-sort of thing, with a paint brush in the front, and she dips the paint in the brush & paints amazing pictures. (When we got married, she gave us a painting she did, and it hangs in our house – it is a very humbling picture). On this particular day, I decided to take a different route to Midrand, and went on the R21 instead of the N1 (probably because of traffic, but I can’t remember why I did it). In the car, I was talking to the resident, and she asked me why I am going on the R21, and not the N1? I asked her if she knows where we are, to which she answered me that she knows exactly what is going on around her, but she just has a non-functional body. I asked her how she lives, and she said she is a very happy person, I then asked why, she replied: she is happy with what she has, because she knows lots of people who are a lot worse off than her – I nearly drove off the road and had an accident hearing this from this person. it was a wake-up call of note, as to how grateful we need to be for everything we have in life.

Shabbos in Kenton with Travelling Chassidim

By Isaak Kohn of TCUK

A group of Chassidic with families attended the Kenton Community where they were warmly welcomed by the Kehilla members and President Roy Block, davening has uplifted the spirit with lively songs, cantor Moshe Mordche Meizlik impressed the whole Kehilla with his wonderful services, the walls of the Shul sang together whilst the Mispallelim burst out dancing, anyone who attendee the shul felt the air of joy when it was followed by a special Seudat Shabbos which has been host by the Rov of the kehillah Rabbi Yehudah Black and family, non of the attendance was ready to leave the room whilst the Chassidim spoke their feelings and how they feel from this holy Shabbos together with this wonderful kehilla, Shabbos morning the Chassidim sang a part of Yekum Purkon followed with the rosh Chodesh bentching, none of the mispallelim were ready to leave the shul from the spiritual time they had, later afternoon it was Q&A which it gave the kehilla the opportunity getting to know a chassidish farbreng, Motze Shabbos is indescribable the emotions went up whilst the chassidim sang the tefillah of the Barditschever rov which has been explained in English before they sang it, after havdoloh the chassidim danced for an hour with the entire community. No words could describe when we in Kenton had the longest Shabbos since we exist which it was amazing said by Roy Block, Mr Menashe scharf said every kehillah should learn from the Kenton kehilla the Achdus they have and how welcoming they were.

There was an introduction by every member of the Travelling Chassidim on Friday night at the Shabbos meal.

One of the TCUK members arrived minus Shtreymel, which created hilarious scenes of musical hats, with the chazan donating his headgear to the poor lad until he finished when the other chazan took over and in turn handed his furry hat to cover for the shlemazal...

This made the participants realise why he was wearing a cap instead of a Shtreimel as a sign from Hashem - leaving behind only the Shtreimel - reminding him about his late father zichroine livrocho who was born in Siberia and there is this kind of dressing code comes from, where he refused to say Schema Yisroel in Russian, Polish or Hebrew and refused to learn the Alef Beis, once he had his bris at the age of six in Krakow at the seudat bris he gave in and said Schma and he also started learning, this shows how we all Klal Yisroel belong to the same tree and we are connected to Hashem; it doesn’t matter what background, dressing code, kind of heart, a Jewish Neshomo stays always connected. 

On moitze Shabbos Yitzchok (Isaak)

Kohn sang the tefilloh from the Heliger Rabbi Levy Yitzchok of Barditchev for the new week, wearing a pheasant's cap and explaining the meaning behind the song. It was an amazing atmosphere when all the participants where overwhelmed and where stunned of those incredible moments, after havdoleh the dancing became an unforgettable experience. At the end they couldn’t leave the chassidim and asked to come again.

Rabbi Shmuel Yitzchok Salzman sang and explained the story behind the song of the modzitz chossid who produced the Ani Mamin that was composed to the rhytm of the train wheels, when people were being led to their death in the extermination camps.no one will forget this extraordinary moments.

Special thanks to Rabbi Binjomin Bineth who organised the Shabbos

Bayis Ne-eman – HaGefen UK

On Rosh Chodesh Sivan, Bayis Ne-eman – HaGefen UK held a Seudas Rosh Chodesh in Park Avenue Restaurant on Clapton Common in which thirty three shadchonim participated. The gathering was preceeded by a kvias mezuza at the new office on Clapton Common. Rabbi Chaim Michoel Biberfeld, Rav of Tchortkov Beis Medrash is South Tottenham was honoured with kvias hamezuzah which was followed by a lechaim. Rabbi Avrohom Monderer, Rov of Kossov Beis Medrash In Stamford Hill, spoke at the event, giving chizuk to the shadchonim in their avodas hakodesh. This was followed by the main speaker, Rabbi Biberfeld.

Bayis Ne’eman is the new name of the revamped shidduchim organisation HaGefen UK in London.

The organisation is a forum for shadchonim to discuss and brainstorm shidduch ideas in their weekly or forthnightly meetings. The office is a place where dedicated shadchonim with many years of experience in the field operate from. The shadchonim are provided with a comfortable workspace from where to make calls and emails and where they can meet people. It is planned that in the near future ladies shadchaniyos will also be employed and they will work from the office in separate shifts.

Bayis Ne’eman is also the address for parents of singles to turn to; every name is taken seriously and given its due attention. For the askonim at Bayis Ne-eman – HaGefen UK, marrying off any single is considered a chessed whatever the person’s age. It’s all about setting up a Jewish home, a place for hashroas hashchinah.

The new name of the organisation “Bayis Ne-eman – HaGefen UK” heralds a new lease of life to the shidduch scene in London. Several new askonim have become involved to offer support and local Rabbonim are giving their wholehearted encouragement. There are exciting plans for expansion, one example is the employment highly respected shadchonim. Advertisements in the press will make their services more widely known, with the hope that soon we will all be happy to participate at the establishment of many a bayis ne-eman beyisroel.

Why do bad things happen to good people?

Why do bad things happen to good people? Why is this world so unfair? Please don't tell me "We can't understand G-d's ways." I am sick of hearing that. I want an explanation.

Answer:

Are you sure you want an explanation? Do you really want to know why the innocent suffer? I think not. You are far better off with the question than with an answer.

You are bothered by the fact that people suffer undeservedly. As you should be. Any person with an ounce of moral sensitivity is outraged by the injustices of our world. Abraham, the first Jew, asked G-d, "Should the Judge of the whole world not act fairly?" Moses asked, "Why have You treated this people badly?" And today we still ask, "Why G-d, why?"

But what if we found the answer? What if someone came along and gave us a satisfying explanation? What if the mystery were finally solved? What if we asked why, and actually got an answer?

If this ultimate question were answered, then we would be able to make peace with the suffering of innocents. And that is unthinkable. Worse than innocent people suffering is others watching their suffering unmoved. And that's exactly what would happen if we were to understand why innocents suffer. We would no longer be bothered by their cry, we would no longer feel their pain, because we would understand why it is happening.

Imagine you are in a hospital and you hear a woman screaming with pain. Outside her room, her family is standing around chatting, all smiling and happy. You scream at them, "What's wrong with you? Can't you hear how much pain she is in?" They answer, "This is the delivery ward. She is having a baby. Of course we are happy."

When you have an explanation, pain doesn't seem so bad anymore. We can tolerate suffering when we know why it is happening.

And so, if we could make sense of innocent people suffering, if we could rationalise tragedy, then we could live with it. We would be able to hear the cry of sweet children in pain and not be horrified. We would tolerate seeing broken hearts and shattered lives, for we would be able to neatly explain them away. Our question would be answered, and we could move on.

But as long as the pain of innocents remains a burning question, we are bothered by its existence. And as long as we can't explain pain, we must alleviate it. If innocent people suffering does not fit into our worldview, we must eradicate it. Rather than justifying their pain, we need to get rid of it.

So keep asking the question, why do bad things happen to good people. But stop looking for answers. Start formulating a response. Take your righteous anger and turn it into a force for doing good. Redirect your frustration with injustice and unfairness and channel it into a drive to fight injustice and unfairness. Let your outrage propel you into action. When you see innocent people suffering, help them. Combat the pain in the world with goodness. Alleviate suffering wherever you can.

We don't want answers, we don't want explanations, and we don't want closure. We want an end to suffering. And we dare not leave it up to G-d to alleviate suffering. He is waiting for us to do it. That's what we are here for.

Dedicated to MY CHILDREN Yisrael Rafael & Yitzhak Yaacov Bnei Immanuel Yosef HaLevi

Dedicated to MY CHILDREN Yisrael Rafael & Yitzhak Yaacov Bnei Immanuel Yosef HaLevi, who are in fact a Mitzvah of Pidyon Shvuyim held captive and by trickery caused by mental illness - have had their nurturing protective custody from me - their beloved father cut off, and their education and social environment has been systematically ruined - switching them in mud year and crises to a school that both parents ruled "out" as totally inappropriate and incongruent with their history and needs - and even cut off from many selected childhood friends in Beit Shemesh, Jerusalem & Tzfat - all to enforce the mentally ill mother's total control by trickery, corruption, and falsehood and demonize their beloved father. The Police, Court, and Psychiatric Services are now aware but the saga is not over so please pray for them that they will be safe and become emotionally nurtured and healthy again AND that their mother will be quickly and gently stopped and safe and receive the help she needs to have a future in the USA with her daughters!

THESE ARE FACTS AND AFTER THE DEEP DVAR TORAH - THE FACTS WILL BE GIVEN TO THOSE WHO WANT AS THE PURPOSE HERE IS RESCUE AND IN FACT THIS IS NOT VIOLATION OF DINEI LASHON HARA NOW THAT IT IS KNOWN AND PROVED BUT UNFORTUNATELY NOT YET FULLY REVERSED BY THE INEPT NEGLIGENT PUBLIC SYSTEM!

THIS IS A WORLD THAT RUNS BY FORCE - I SAY YOU CAN TAKE A HORSE TO WATER - AND YOU CAN MAKE HIM DRINK TOO JUST GET READY FOR A KICK IN THE WORST PLACE FORCE NEVER WORKS IN EDUCATION BUT IT CERTAINLY CAN IN WAR AND POLITICS AND ALSO IN SECULAR COURTS TOO! (THAT IS THE FALSE CLAIM THAT THE OTHER SIDE IS VIOLENT AND NEEDS TO BE LEGALLY STOPPED)

AS A BEN TORAH - MY OBLIGATION IS TO ONLY SAY THE TRUTH AND ALSO TO BE AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT I AM TEACHING TEACHING TORAH IS ESSENTIALLY TEACHING THE 13 WAYS OF MERCY BECAUSE WE ARE MADE BETZELEM ELOKEEM IN THE IMAGE OF G-D - AND WE ONLY LERN WHAT THAT MEANS THROUGH THE 13 MIDDOS G-D ACTS MERCIFUL IN THE WORLD IN 13 WAYS SO IF I AM NOT TELLING THE TRUTH AND ACTING MERCIFULLY TOO - IHAVE NO BUSINESS TEACHING TORAH!

THIS MEANS WHEN I AM TEACHING THIS OR HA CHAIM WHICH IS A ONE OF A KIND HUGE REVELATION INOUR HOLY TORAH MY JOB DESCRIPTION IS TO TEACH HOW CAN IT BE THAT THIS CRUEL ACT OF WIPING OUT EVERYONE IN A CITY OF IDOLATORS IS A MERCIFUL ACT - NEEDS EXPLANATION HOW THIS FULFILLS OUR 2 CONDITIONS OF TEACHING TORAH TELLING THE TRUTH

AND ACTING MERCIFULLY SO WE MODEL GOOD MIDDOS - PERSONALITY TRAITS THAT RESEMBLE THE MERCIFULNESS OF HASHEM SO NOW I HAVE REALLY MADE A BIG DOUBLE JOB FOR MYSELF

NOT ONLY DO I HAVE TO EXPLAIN THE OR HACHAIM'S GREAT REVELATION ABOUT WIPING OUT A WHOLE CITY OF IDOLATORS BEING DOUBLY MERCIFUL THAT WE USE THE WORD TWICE AND THERE ARE NO EXTRAS IN THE HOLY TORAH NOTHING HAPPENSTANCE OR RANDOM - ALL PURPOSEFUL!

BUT I ALSO HAVE TO EXPLAIN WITH WHAT CHUTZPAH DO I TEACH ALL OF YOU TORAH NOW AFTER PUBLICLY POSTING SOMETHING THAT LOOKED SO MUCH LIKE UNTRUTH, EMBASRASSMENT, RECHILUS TALE BARING ABOUT SOMEONE I ACTUALLY LOVE WHOSE NAME I DID NOT DIRECTLY MENTION BUT ALL LOCALS KNOW THAT MY 7 AND 10 YEAR OLD KIDS ARE LIVING IN MY HOUSE - AND I AM NOT SINCE FEBRUARY - SO WHO COULD I HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT WHEN I SAID MY LAST WEEK'S TORAH PARSHAH SHIUR IN KOSOV AT 10 AM ON FRIDAY WAS DEDICATED TO FREEING MY CAPTIVE 7 & 10 YEAR OLD CHILDREN HELD ABUSIVELY BY COERCION & ILLEGAL CORRUPTION FOR 101 DAYS THROUGH MEDICALLY PROVEN FALSE TESTIMONY AND HOW COULD I POSSIBLY DO SUCH A THING AS A BEN TORAH TEACHING TORAH WHEN I AM BOUND TO

NOW BACK TO ASWERING THE QUESTION OF EXPLAINING HOW I CAN TEACH YOU TORAN AFTER MY LAST WEEKS APPARENTLY TALEBEARING SLANDERING POSTING ABOUT SIMPLY A DIVORCE FIGHT GOING PUBLIC NASTY OR SOMETHING SCUMY LIKE THAT AND THEN MY LAST QUESTION

TELLING OLY THE TRUTH - INSTEAD OF SLANDERING SOMEONE I ACTUALLY LOVE - BECAUSE IM FIGHTING AND GOING THROUGH A LEGAL DIVORCE - THANK HASHEM - BUT I STILL NEED TO ACT DIGNIFIED AND NOT PUBLICLY BESMIRCH SOMEONE - AND EVEN IF TRUE - THE HETERIM - OR JEWISH LEGAL PERMISSION TO LEGALLY TELL BAD TRUE THINGS ABOUT SOMEONE IS VERY COMPLEX AND NOT OLY DO YOU HAVE TO HAVE ABSOLUTELY 100% HAVE VERIFIED THE TRUTH BUT YOU MUST HAVE A LARGER POSITIVE PURPOSE IN DOING SO THAT IS SCRUTINIZED BY A TOP TALMUDIC MIND AND HALACHIC AUTHORITY TO MAKE ABSOLUTELY SURE THAT YOU ARE TELLING THE TRUTH

2) HAS A JUST LARGER PURPOSE THAT CANOT BE ACHIEVED IN ANY OTHER WAY

LIKE WE SAID - TO TEACH TORAH - YOU NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH AND WHEN AND HOW IT’S APPROPRIATE AND SERVES A LARGER POSITIVE PURPOSE THAT CANNOT BE DONE ANOTHER BETTER WAY, MINIMIZE DAMAGE AND NO DAAGE FOR DAMAGES SAKE - AND MODEL GENUINE MERCIFULNESS - REMEMBER BEING IN HASHEMS IMAGE MEANS - 13 WAYS OF MERCY SO THE OR HACHAIM TEACHES THAT JUST LIKE DEMOCRACY MIGHT LOOK MERCIFUL AND IN SOME CASES IT JUST COMPROMISES AND REDUCES THE LOWEST COMMON DENOMINATOR SO YOU GET AN ARCHIE BUKER SARCASM PUT DOWN HUMOR SOCIETY WHERE PEOPLE LEARN THE MIDDOS OF MAKING POINTS FROM SOMEONE ELSE'S MISFORTUNE AND PUTTING PEOPLE DOWN THIS BOTH REDUCES SELF ESTEEM ND THE ABILITY FOR TRUE COMPASSION AND MAKES A SOCIETY OF TAKERS - I CALL THEM VAMPIRES! IT’S ALSO RESULTS IN MORAL HEFKERUS OR LOOSENESS INSTEAD OF SETTLING THE WORLD WITH FAMILY STRUCTURE WHICH IS THE REAL MEANING OF THE FIRST MITZVAH OF PERU ORVU! - AND THIS DESTROYS JEWISH CULTURE AND IS THW ANTITHESIS OF TORAH - THATS WHY BILAAMS ADVICE WAS GET THE JEWS TO BE IMMORAL CAUSE HASHEM HATES THAT AND THATS WHY PARSHAS PINCHAS IS SO CENTRAL - AND THATS WHY I DID TSHUVAH ON BEING BORN A LITVAK AND BECAME A CHASSID OF THE BIALA REBBE!

AND POLITICALLY - IF YOU ARE THE SIZE OF THE STATE OF NEW JERSEY LIVING NOW IN A HIGH TECH WMD WORLD & SURROUNDED BY TOO MUCH LAND AND TOO MANY NUMBER OF ENEMIES TO COUNT THEM - ALL OF WHICH HAVE A MITZVAH TO MAKE AGREEMENTS TO TAKE FROM YOU - THEN DO THE OPPOSITE OF THE AGREEMENT TO WIPE YOU OFF THE MAP AND THATS THE EASIEST WAY TO AVOID THE PUBLIC EMBARRASSMENT OF HAVING TO ANSWER PUBLICLY WHY YOU GOT SO FORCEFULLY VIOLENT AND BROKE YOUR AGREEMENT. JUST WIPE THEM OFF THE MAP AND NO NEED TO ANSWER ANY MORE - THEY AR ONLY THE SIZE OF NEW JERSEY ND THEY ARE JUST JEWS AYWAY!!

TONIGHT I ALMOST DANCED WHEN I REALIZED THAT THESE ARE PROBABLY AMONGST THE BEST DAYS I WILL HAVE IN THIS RELATIVE WORLD –

NOW I GUARANTEE YOU - THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO ONE THAT REALLY KNOWS THE HALF OF THE HELL OF MY LIFE IN THE LAST MONTHS SINCE APRIL 24 - EVEN THE REBBE MAYBE NOT!

SO HOW CAN THAT BE FORM THE BEST OF TIMES - SEE THE TOLDOS ADAM ON ZEMIROS SHABBOS - "MASHOCH CHASDECHAW KALE KANEH VANOKAME"

AND THE ANSWER IS - THAT I HAD THE GREAT MERIT TO LEARN 11 YARS BY HARAV CHAIM PINCHAS SCHEINBERG ZTZ"AL WJO WAS NIFTAR THIS YEAR AS A POSAKE HADOR AT AGE 101. HE USED TO SAY EVERY YEAR INTHE SUCCAH THE SAME VORT - WHAT IS SIMCHAH?

AMERICANS WANT THEIR KIDS TO BE "HAPPY" (AMERICANS USED TO WANT ETHICAL, HAPPY, WEALTHY - COULD BE TODAY IT’S JUST "WEALTHY") ROSH HAYESHIVA'S ANSWER WAS "AIN SIMCHA K'HATARAS HASFAQUOS" - HAPPINESS IS THE ELIIMINATION OF DOUBTS" FOR TEACHING PURPOSES - AND MAYBE BECAUSE I AM CHASSIDIC - I HAVE CHANGED THIS TO - SIMCHA IS BEING "B'TAFKID" - IF YOU HAVE A CLEAR UNEQUIVOCAL ROLE OR DUTY WITH NO DOUBT ABOUT IT - YOU ARE HAPPY - AND THE MINUTE YOU GO OUTSIDE THAT DUTY - YOU CANNOT BE HAPPY. HARAV HUTNER Z'L WAS KNOWN TO TEACH THAT THERE IS NO MIDDLE GROUND OR DIVREI RISHUS - LEISURE TIME - EVERY THING IS EITHER A MITZVAH OR AN AVERAH - THIS JUST MEANS WHAT YOU DO TAKES YOU UP OR DOWN - NOT SIDEWAYS - I.E. COULD BE HOW YOU DO THE SAME ACT DETERMINES THIS, OR THE ACT ITSELF IS NOT TORAH LIKE - OR IT’S NOT YOUR DUTY TO BE DOING THIS NOW.

SO LET’S ANSWER THE QUESTION: PIKUACH NEFESH IS A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT BALL GAME - ESPECIALLY WHERE HELPLESS CORRUPTED MINORS ARE CONCERNED

MENTAL ILLNESS IS ALSO A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT BALLGAME - CHESED FOR A MENTALLY ILL PERSON IS FORCING THEM TO GET HELP - ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR DUTY AS A HUSBAND OR FATHER ETC. TO YOUR LOVED ONES NECESSITATES - JUST LIKE GIVING THEM A VACCINATION THAT HURTS (IF YOU BELIEVE IN THEM) IS A NECESSARY ACT OF CHESED THAT APPEARS OTHERWISE TO THE CHILD THAT ONLY FEARS THE NEEDLE PRICK AND PAIN.

DIVORCE HAPPENS – IT’S PART OF THE TORAH - WHEN DIVORCE IS USED AS A TOOL OF A MENTALLY ILL PERSON TO MAKE WAR AND USE THE MINOR CHILDREN AS HUMAN SHIELDS AND THIS CAN BE IRREFUTABLY PROVED - AND THE SYSTEM DOES - NOT WORK TO STOP IT - OR AT LEAST HASN'T YET AFTER 108 DAYS - IT BECOMES THE HEALTHY PARENTS' RESPONSIBILITY TO BE FEARLESS AND GO PUBLIC OR ANYTHING NECESSARY TO IMMEDIATELY SAVE THE ENDANGERED CHILDREN AND OTHER MENTALLY ILL SPOUSE BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE - AFTER 108 DAYS IT MAY BE TOO LATE - BUT BEFORE CHANGING CHANNELS - REMEMBER THAT THE PREFACE WAS ABOUT MERCY AND THE RESPONSIBILITY TO NOT SAY ANYTHING PUBLIC YOU CANNOT PROVE COMPLETELY OR EVEN WHEN IT CAN BE DONE ANOTHER LESS EMBARRASSING WAY. IF THE PROOF IS NOT PERFECT HERE OR IF THERE WERE ANOTHER WAY - THEN THE ONE SAYING THIS WILL BE PROPERLY PROSECUTED FOR TRYING TO SAVE HIS MINOR CHILDREN THAT THE INEPT SOCIAL SYSTEMS ARE DESIGNED TO PROTECT - HAVE BECOME RESPONSIBLE FORTHE DAILY CHILD ABUSE HAPENING 108 DAYS ALREADY. THIS IS A NECESSITY NOW - IT MUST BE COMPLETELY PROVED HERE WITHOUT DOUBT

SO HERE IS AN IRREFUTABLE PROOF AND THE SPIRITUAL ADVISOR OF THIS PERSON SAID THE MENTALLY ILL SPOUSE MUST BE PROVEN MENTALLY ILL QUICKLY TO SAVE THESE CHILDREN & DIVORCED & RECEIVE HELP & THE CHILDREN COME FIRST!

I AM OFFERING A CLEAR CHRONOLOGICAL PROVE PROOF TO ANYONE WHO WRITES THAT THEY WANT TO SEE FOR OTHERS - LETS JUST SAY THE HUSBAND HAS EXPERT PSCYHIATRIC / NEUROLOGICAL EVALUATIONS FROM 28/12/11 AND 13/6/12 THAT SAY ALSO TO THE COURT THAT THE WIFE FALSELY TESTIFIED IN HIS NAME ON APRIL 18 AND 24TH THAT THE HUSBAND IS VIOLENT AND UNSTABLE - & ALSO TRICKING THE HUSBAND AND COURT THAT THE HUSBAND DID NOT GET INFORMATION ABOUT THE HEARING TO BE PRESENT - THE EVALUATIONS GOON TO STATE THAT THE PARENTS BOTH LEARNED SEMINARS BY THE DR. 6+ YEARS AGO AND WERE BOTH PRESENT IN DECEMBER TO EVALUATE FIRST THE 2 LITTLE BOYS, AND THEN THE HUSBAND. DR. STATES THEIR WAS NEVER DISCUSSION OR SUSPICION OF ANY VIOLENCE OR ABUSE FROM THIS MAN.

ANOTHER DR & NEIGHBOR WHO KNOWS THE FAMILY WELL AS FRIENDS AND CLIENTS 13 YEARS, A HIGHLY EXPERIENCED PHD CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST THAT WAS THEIR FAMILY THERAPIST FOR 2+ YEARS, AND THEIR LAST HIGHLY EXPERIENCED SENIOR RABBINICAL SHALOM BAYIT THERAPIST APPOINTED BY THE BIALA REBBE ALL VERIFY THIS AND THAT THE WIFE FIRST COUNTER CLAIM FABRICATED HER VIOLENT HUSBAND CLAIM AFTER PESACH 2012 WHEN SHE SUDDENLY SECRETLY RAN TO FALSELY TESTIFY IN COURT.

SHE ADMITTED TO TWO SECULAR PROFESSIONAL FAMILY THERAPISTS IN FAMILY THERAPY IN EARLY JANUARY THAT HER HUSBND LEFT HER BECAUSE IT TRUE SHE VIOLENTLY ATTACKED HIM IN FRONT OF THEIR 4 CHILDREN AGED 6-14 WHILE HE WAS SITTING TYPING IN THEIR LIVING ROOM, BROKE HIS LAPTOP, AND STOLE HIS CELL PHONE WHEN HE TRIED TO CALL FOR HELP. AND WE HAVE PAGES OF APRIL 2010 GOOGLE STORED E MAILS FROM HER 29 YEAR OLD OLDEST DAUGHTER TO THE THIS - HER 3RD HUSBAND - TOHEL WITH SHALOM BAYIT - CLEARLY TELLING OF THE WIFES LONG HISTORY OF SUDDEN VIOLET ATTACKS ON ALL FAMILY MEMBERS - LONG PREDATING HER CURRENT 3RD MARRIAGE. THIS I SENOGH FOR THOSE WHO DON'T WANT MORE. ANYONE WHO CANHELP AND WANTS FULL CHRONOLOGY - PLEASE ASK - WE HAVE A GOOD CHANCE TO GET THE COURT TO MAKE A CRUCIAL STEP ON MONDAY AND NEED ALL THE HELP WE CAN GET - PIKUACH NEFESH PIDYAN SHVUYIM AND SYSTEM MOVING TOO SLOW - 110 DAYS ON SHABBOS!

ANYONE WHO CAN ALSO TESTIFY THAT ONLY AFTER PESACH 2012 - THE WIFE BEGAN THIS FABRICATION - SPEAK NOW - THE CHILDREN ARE HUMAN SHIELDS TELLING HER STORIES OF FATHER VIOLENCE TO CONDEMN THEIR OWN FATHER FALSELY BECAUSE SHE TOLD THEM - LIKE THE NEIGHBOR - IF YOU DONT SAY MY STORY THE STATE WILL TAKE AND INSTITUTIONAIZE YOU AND YOU WILL LOSE BOTH PARENTS - HORRIFIC CHILD ABUSE! WANT IRREFUTABLE AND POLICE REPORT PROOF - SEND ME E MAIL REQUEST. 

סיפור ששווה קריאה

אל חדרו של ראש הישיבה נכנס תלמיד חכם מורם מעם, הליכתו בטוחה ומטרתו ברורה. "אני מחפש לביתי את הבחור הכי טוב בישיבה", הוא אומר. ראש הישיבה מושיבו לצידו, הוא מכיר את הרב שלפניו ויודע עד כמה גבוהה דרישתו. "יש לנו כאן הרבה בחורים טובים", הוא פותח, "האם הרב רוצה את הטוב ביותר?" הוא שואל. "את הטוב ביותר בשיבה כולה", עונה הרב, "אני לא מחפש בחור טוב, אני מחפש תלמיד חכם אמיתי, בעל מידות וירא אלוקים", הוא מסיים. ראש הישיבה הנערץ מהנהן בראשו, "יש לנו אחד כזה כאן", הוא אומר, "היום בערב אשלח אותו אליך הביתה על מנת שתתהה על קנקנו, תודיע לביתך שמיד אחר כך תהיה מוכנה לפגישה איתו", מסכם ראש הישיבה. הרב מחייך בשמחה, לוחץ את ידו של ראש הישיבה ויוצא אל ביתו.

בשעת ערב מוקדמת שומע הרב דפיקות על דלת ביתו, הוא פותח את הדלת ומולו נגלת דמותו התמירה והנאה של בן הישיבה. "הראש ישיבה שלח אותי לכאן הערב", פותח הבחור. "בא תכנס", מורה לו הרב, ומכוון אותו לחדרו שלו. בחדר השני כבר ממתינה הנערה, לבושה ומקושטת במיטב המחצלות לכבוד הפגישה עם הבחור שתערך מן הסתם בשעה הקרובה.

הרב סוגר את דלת החדר, ומורה לבן הישיבה להתיישב לפניו. הם פותחים בשיחת נימוסים קלה, הבחור מספר על הוריו, על מקום מגוריו ועל סדר היום בישיבה. ואט אט מתקדמת השיחה למטרתה האמיתית. האב יורה שאלה הלכתית לחלל החדר, וכהרף עין פותח הבחור את פיו ומשיב תשובה קולעת אל השערה, כשהוא מצטט את מקורותיה ההלכתיים מהתלמוד הבבלי, משיטות הראשונים ומדעות הפוסקים - המוכרים ושאינם. בן הישיבה לא עוצר, ותשובתו ההלכתית המרתקת מותירה את האב פעור פה. במתק לשונו הוא מטייל עם השאלה בכל עולם ההלכה, משייך אותה לשבתות ולימים טובים, להלכות בשר וחלב ולהלכות תערובות, הוא מוסיף צדדים לשאלה הראשונית ושוחה כבקיא ורגיל בים התלמוד וההלכה. האב המרוגש מצטרף אליו, והם מעבירים יחד את הערב כשהם צוללים במים אדירים. שום דבר לא עוצר אותם והם שוכחים לשם מה הם התכנסו. לפתע כמו מתוך חלום, הם שומעים את שעון האורלוגין שבחדר מצלצל אחד עשר צלצולים. "אוי, הנערה", פולט הרב. "השידוך, מסכים איתו הבחור.

"כבר אחת עשרה בלילה", אומר האב, "אין טעם לצאת איתה עכשיו בשעה מאוחרת שכזו. תבוא מחר, באותה שעה, ותפגוש את הנערה". הבחור מהנהן בראשו, אכן השעה מאוחרת, הזמן בהחלט לא מתאים בשביל להיפגש כעת עם השידוך. הוא מבטיח לבוא מחר, וממהר לצאת מהבית, אץ בבהילות לישיבה, להשלים את חובת לימודיו.

בבית פנימה מביט הרב ברחמים בביתו שנרדמה על הכסא, כשבגדי החג שלבשה משמשים לה כבגדי שינה. "הוא יבוא מחר", הוא מבטיח לה, ועוזר לה לשוב לחדרה.

למחרת, באותה השעה בדיוק, מגיע הבחור לבית הרב. הנערה, שוב, עומדת בחדרהּ לבושה ומחויטת, ממתינה בהתרגשות אמיתית לפגישה עם בן הישיבה הנערץ. ההחמצה של יום האתמול, גורמת לה להמתין היום בכיליון עיניים, ורגשותיה גואים היום גם בשביל אתמול. היא לא יכולה להמתין זמן רב מידי, היא עשתה זאת כבר פעם אחת. היום, כך היא מקווה, לא יתעכבו הבחור ואביה בינם לבין עצמם. היום היא תזכה סוף סוף לפגוש את השידוך שייעד לה אביה.

הרב פותח בהתרגשות את דלת הבית, הוא חיכה לו, לבן הישיבה, יותר ממה שניתן לתאר. שיח החכמה שהיה כאן אתמול בחדר הבית, גרם לו להעריך ולהעריץ את הבחור האלמוני, והוא צמא כבר לשמוע את דברי החכמה בשנית.

ואכן, גם בערב הזה, בדיוק כמו ביום האתמול, שטים הרב ובן הישיבה בים התלמוד וההלכה, מעלים קושיות, מיישבים תמיהות, מחדשים חידושים ועוקרים הרים. שום דבר לא יכול לבוא ולהפריע ברגעים האדירים האלו, גם לא נערה תמימה, שעומדת בחדרה הסמוך ומחכה כבר לפגוש את מי שהגיע הנה במיוחד בעבורה.

"אחת עשרה בלילה!", זועק הרב למשמע צלצולי השעון. "מאוחר מאד", משיב הבחור. "אבוא גם מחר", הוא מבטיח, ויוצא מהבית.

בפעם הזאת חיכתה הנערה בחדרה ערנית וכאובה. את אביה, שנכנס בחשש לחדרה, היא קיבלה בפנים חמוצות. "הוא יבוא גם מחר", מנסה האב להשחיל. "בתנאי שלא תהיה כאן", עונה הבת נחרצות. "זה הבית שלי, איך לא אהיה כאן?" שואל האב בתמיהה. "אני לא יכולה להמתין זמן רב כל כך", מנסה הבחורה להסביר, "התלבשתי התכוננתי, זה לא יתכן שאמתין כך בחדרי ללא מעש", היא כבר בוכייה. "לא אדבר איתו מחר בעיניי הלכה", מבטיח האב. "אקבל אותו עם תה ועוגה, ומיד לאחר מכן אשלח אותו לחדר השני ושם תפגשו". ההצעה מתקבלת ובני הבית עולים על משכבם.

למחרת, פותח האב בהיסוס את הדלת לבן הישיבה הנרגש. "יש כאן תה ועוגה, תתכבד בבקשה", הוא אומר לבחור, שכבר מתחיל להרגיש בבית הזה כביתו השני. הבחור מברך בכוונה ואוכל, מברך בכוונה ושותה. גם האב משתתף בלגימה שמקרבת את הלבבות, מנסה בכל כוחו לנצור את לשונו ולהימנע משיחה ארוכה שתצער את ביתו, היושבת בחדר הסמוך בציפייה. "מדוע הרב לא מברך ברכה אחרונה", שואל בן הישיבה בחשש. "לא אכלתי שיעור", עונה לו בעל הבית. "אבל הרי דעת הט"ז בסימן כך וכך שיש לברך גם באופן הזה", מעיר הבחור.

בבת אחת נסדקו חומות הלחישה, כמו מים חיים אל נפש עייפה נזרקה השאלה לחלל האוויר, האב שכלא עד עתה בעל כורחו את תאוותו הרוחנית, משיב בחדוות נעורים את התשובה הנכונה על השגת הט"ז. הבחור - אף הוא, מוליך ומביא, עוקר ונוטע, מקשה ומתרץ. וקבלת הפנים שהייתה אמורה להיערך רק דקות ספורות, הופכת שוב, לשיחת תלמידי חכמים ארוכה שאין לה קצבה.

בחדר השני מקבלת הנערה החלטה, היא לא תיפגש יותר עם הבחור הזה. הוא אמנם תלמיד חכם מופלג שגורם לאביה לצאת מהכלים, וייתכן שהוא אף בעל מידות מיוחדות, אך היא לא מוכנה להתחתן עם מי שמרוב דיבורים שוכח אותה - את המטרה שלשמה הגיע הנה.

היא עולה לחדרה, ומתכוננת לשנת הלילה. אם יש למישהו תכניות, היא לא שותפה אליהם כבר.

ובחדר הפנימי, אש ולהט. שני תלמידי חכמים מופלגים, האחד מורם מעם, והשני רק בשנות העשרים לחייו, אבל בשעה זו אין ביניהם כלום, פערי הגילאים לא ניכרים כלל ועיקר. הם עומדים שניהם מול הר סיני, כולו עשן, והם חומרי הבעירה.

אחת עשרה צלצולים.

"אוי ואבוי!", מזדעק הרב. "המתן כאן כמה רגעים", הוא מורה לבחור, ואץ רץ לחדר השני, מחפש מילים שיפייסו את ביתו. אבל היא לא שם. בגדי החג תלויים על הקולב, והחדר שמם.

הוא מחפש אותה בבהילות, נכנס לחדרה ופוגש אותה במיטתה, שלב אחד לפני השינה.

"הבחור", אומר לה אביה בהיסוס, "הוא מחכה בחדרי".

"הוא לא בשבילי אבא", היא אומרת. "אני לא אתחתן עם בחור ששוכח את עצמו ואת השידוך שלו. היום הוא שוכח אותי, מחר הוא ישכח את אשתו. אני לא מעוניינת להיות האישה הזאת".

"אבל זאת אשמתי!", אומר לה האב, קולו מיוסר. הייתי צריך להניח לו, אבל לא יכולתי.

"אין על מה לדבר", מודיעה הנערה, ופורשת לשנתה.

האב האומלל ניגש לחדרו, שם ממתין לו הבחור. "היא לא מעוניינת", הוא אומר בלחישה, פניו חפויות. "זאת אשמתי", הוא מוסיף, "הבטחתי לה שלא אעכב אותך, ולצערי לא עמדתי במילתי".

בן הישיבה מהרהר קמעה, כמו בורר את מילותיו.

"תאמר לה שאני רוצה לדבר איתה רק שתי דקות", הוא יורה פתאום לחלל האוויר. "תגיד לה שהבחור כבר כאן, והוא לא רוצה שום פגישה, רק לומר לה משפט אחד", הוא מנסה את מזלו.

"אין סיכוי", לוחש האב. היא כבר במיטתה, רדומה.

"בבקשה", מתחנן הבחור, "שתבוא כך, כמות שהיא עכשיו, זאת לא פגישה. יש לי רק משפט אחד לומר לה".

האב, אולי מסקרנות, נכנס בשנית לחדרה של ביתו. מנסה לשכנע אותה, מתחנן שתסכים, לפחות בשבילו.

"יש לו רק משפט אחד לומר לך", הוא אומר לדמות השוכבת במיטתה. "הוא לא רוצה פגישה, את לא צריכה להתלבש מחדש בבגדי החג, רק תכנסי ותשמעי מה שיש לו לומר לך", מנסה האב לרכך את ליבה. "אנא", הוא מסיים, "עשי זאת למעני".

היא מסכימה. היא ניגשת ליטול את ידיה, לא מסדרת את עצמה, אפילו לא מסתרקת, ונכנסת לחדרו של אביה, שם ממתין לה בן הישיבה הנערץ.

לאחר שתי דקות בדיוק, הם יוצאים מהחדר. "אבא, מגיע לנו מזל טוב", היא אומרת בשמחה, "החלטנו להתארס", היא מוסיפה, ואצה רצה לחדרה לסדר את מחצלותיה.

"מה קורה כאן?", שואל הרב את הבחור, "איזה משפט קסמים אמרת לה?", הוא מנסה להבין.

"שום דבר מיוחד", עונה לו הבחור המרוגש, ומתכונן לאירוסיו.

*הרב אברהם פאטל, לא מוכן לוותר, הסקרנות גבוהה ממנו. "מה אמר לך עובדיה יוסף?", הוא שואל את ביתו מרגלית. "איזה משפט גרם לך לשנות את דעתך מן הקצה אל הקצה ולהחליט על אירוסייך עם הבחור בתוך שתי דקות בלבד?".

הרבנית מרגלית מהססת קמעה, לבסוף היא מחליטה לחשוף באזני אביה הדגול, את המשפט שהכריע את חייה לכל השנים הבאות: "אם את מבטיחה לדאוג לי בעולם הזה", אמר הרב עובדיה הצעיר לאשתו לעתיד, "אני מבטיח לדאוג לך לעולם הבא". "זה המשפט אבא. אני לא צריכה הבטחה גדולה מזאת בשביל להתחתן. בימים שקדמו לפגישתי עם הרב למדתי, כי לפה שהבטיח לי את ההבטחה הזאת, יש כח גדול מאד בשמים".

*בנימה אישית: את הסיפור המצמרר הזה, שמעתי באנגלית מהרב הרשל שכטר שליט"א מניו יורק, שסיפר אותו בשמחה גדולה, אך כשהוא הגיע לקטע האחרון בסיפור שם נחשפה הבטחת הרב זצוק"ל לרבנית, הוא החל לבכות ולמרר בבכי כילד קטן. הוא העיד ששמע את הסיפור הזה באחד מההספדים שנערכו לרבנית מרגלית יוסף ע"ה בניו יורק.